Why some therapists don’t take insurance

This is a hot topic among therapists, and certainly among potential clients who may be frustrated by this. In an ideal world you could see whichever therapist you wanted, he or she would be taking new clients, and that therapist would take your insurance. And, you would owe not more than a small copay perContinue reading “Why some therapists don’t take insurance”

Upset over things you can’t control? Maybe it’s unrealistic expectations.

As a psychologist, I often see that what often drives many emotions, like frustration, anger, sadness, or disappointment is unrealistic expectations. When we have something we expect, and this is not what happens, we are likely to feel a certain way, which then leads us to react accordingly. We may lash out, complain, speak negatively,Continue reading “Upset over things you can’t control? Maybe it’s unrealistic expectations.”

When you might let go of family or friends

One area I have come to specialize in as a psychologist is relationships. Love relationships, family relationships, and friendships can become problematic or a source of stress for all of us, but more and more I hear from people who repeatedly give in their relationships, but they get very little back. And many relationships areContinue reading “When you might let go of family or friends”

Midlife Crisis? …or, Midlife Awakening?

Song: “Courage to Grow” from album of the same title by Rebelution (2007); Video with lyrics: Grace Berdan (Youtube, 2012)… (I added a video this time because I like the band, and I also thought the song really fit this post) As a psychologist and someone in “midlife”, I hear people talk about midlife crises allContinue reading “Midlife Crisis? …or, Midlife Awakening?”

Repost: 8 (9) Tips to Enjoy the Holidays More

Whatever you celebrate or whether you celebrate, this time of year may be filled with family gatherings, get-togethers with friends, and being a bit busier.  Many of us enjoy the holidays, yet people report a significant amount of stress surrounding them.  Whether it’s trying to do too much, financial concerns about gift buying or takingContinue reading “Repost: 8 (9) Tips to Enjoy the Holidays More”

10 benefits of therapy- even when you don’t have a mental illness

Today I submitted comments for an article about benefits of therapy for people who may not have a mental illness. There are many, and I say this not just because I’m a therapist, but because I believe it and I see it all of the time. In fact, when people ask me things like, “Isn’tContinue reading “10 benefits of therapy- even when you don’t have a mental illness”

Think quitting drinking or AA is the only way? Think again.

I recognize that this post may seem controversial to some people, but hear me out. I want  to challenge “conventional wisdom” here- because it’s something I’ve always had a need to do, and because I’m a psychologist and I spend every day helping people think differently or to find out-of-the-box solutions to their problems. ForContinue reading “Think quitting drinking or AA is the only way? Think again.”

Adjustment Isn’t Always Easy

We will all have to make many adjustments in life- to new things (schools, houses, jobs, towns); to situations we didn’t expect (losing a loved one or them becoming sick, a divorce, loss of a job); or to common life transitions (marriage, becoming a parent, children leaving the house, retirement). Some of these are veryContinue reading “Adjustment Isn’t Always Easy”

Repost: 8 (9) Tips to Enjoy the Holidays More

Whatever you celebrate or whether you celebrate, this time of year may be filled with family gatherings, get-togethers with friends, and being a bit busier.  Many of us enjoy the holidays, yet people report a significant amount of stress surrounding them.  Whether it’s trying to do too much, financial concerns about gift buying or takingContinue reading “Repost: 8 (9) Tips to Enjoy the Holidays More”