Although I work with a variety of clients in my practice, I most enjoy working with other men- whether they have ever been in therapy before or not.
In fact, I love working with people who made the choice to reach out to a therapist for the first time. Most are glad they did and say they wish they had done it sooner!
Most male therapists advertise as dealing with “men’s issues”. These are, of course, broad, and can be anything related to the experience of being a man.
Below are some common things I help men with:
- Self-confidence, self-image, self-esteem issues
- Identifying and better managing emotions
- Talking about feelings
- Reducing anger/anger management
- Expressing emotions positively
- Romantic relationships
- Increasing equality
- Communicating more effectively
- Increasing intimacy
- Developing insight into behaviors which help and do not help relationships
- Increasing accountability, acknowledging and changing behaviors as needed
- Dating issues
- Connecting better with children or other family members
- Loneliness, isolation, lack of friendships, limited social support
- Work/life balance concerns
- Increasing healthy behaviors (i.e. working out, eating healthfully, sleeping better)
- Increasing positive coping skills, reducing negative coping behaviors
- Addiction or substance use concerns
- Clarifying values, increasing values-consistent behavior
- Learning to ask for help or to be vulnerable
- And more…
Most of these issues are not unique to men, but time and time again, these are the things they talk about. There are a lot of reasons why, but mainly we men have been socialized to handle things ourselves and to keep feelings inside. Expressing feelings (other than anger) has generally been regarded as feminine or weak. So in turn, most men struggle with these issues and need to unlearn some of what they have been taught, while learning to do things differently. And this is where a professional like a psychologist can come in.
Therapists are professionals and legally and ethically bound by confidentiality. You can feel confident that what you share will be kept private, and whether you choose to tell anyone you see a therapist is up to you. I always start therapy with a detailed discussion of this and provide opportunity for questions.
If you think therapy could help, reach out and discuss it with someone. Share what’s on your mind, clarify the issues, and work together to address your concerns and to live a better life than you have been. Why wouldn’t you?
Have questions? Want to know more? Want to discuss an appointment? Contact me or call 610-482-4496.